HOW TO HAVE IT ALL // editor, author & mum, rosie nixon

Rosie Nixon

Ah, the elusive life/work balance. 

We hear about it, we all want it, but is it really possible to achieve? The answer is yes, but you need to set yourself realistic goals and expectations.

I’ll let you into a little secret; those people who appear to have everything? They don’t. They’ve just learned to delegate and prioritise so they can do all the important things really well.

Rosie Nixon is one of those people who’s figured out the delicate balance: after working her way up through the ranks of some of the UK’s most glamorous glossies (Red, Glamour, Grazia), Rosie joined the team at Hello! magazine eight years ago, and was recently promoted to editor-in-chief.

And if heading up one of the country’s most iconic publications, and schmoozing with the world’s biggest celebrities, wasn’t challenging enough, Rosie also has two young sons, Heath, 2.5, and Rex, 10 months.

Oh, and did I mention she also wrote a novel? That’s right. An actual entire novel, in her ‘spare’ time. She made notes on her iPhone while she caught the Tube to work; she tapped out ideas while lying in bed, and in the back of taxis, finally finishing ‘THE STYLIST’ while on maternity leave.

This addictive fiction centres around fashion boutique worker Amber Green, who’s thrust into the glitzy world of celebrity when she’s mistakenly offered a job as assistant to infamous, jet-setting ‘stylist to the stars’ Mona Armstrong. Her life becomes a whirlwind of red carpets, dazzling designer gowns, and neurotic starlets, but is it all as glamorous as it seems?

Well, you’ll have to read it to find out, won’t you? 

You can order Rosie’s debut novel The Stylist, (HQ, £7.99) from Amazon, but if you get in quickly you can snap it up for just £4.00 (while you’re at it, why not pre-order her follow up novel, The Stylist Takes Manhattan, due out next year).

While you’re waiting for your book to arrive, check out Rosie’s fabulous advice for ‘having it all’:

FIVE TOP TIPS FOR WORKING MUMS

• Don’t expect things to go well at the beginning. Adjusting to a new routine is hard for everyone – mum and children alike. Leaving the house or nursery when your little one is in tears is tough all round, and no matter how lovely the nursery, or how capable the carer, you’re going to feel guilty at first. But the truth is little ones are super resilient and adaptable – as are us mums – and once the new routine kicks in, you’ll all find your groove. Whether going back to work is a necessity or something you need to do to retain a sense of self, hang in there, it will get easier. Promise.

• Stop trying to do everything. On those mornings where it feels like everything has gone to pot, remember that the important things are: everyone’s alive, fed and loved. That’s what counts. So if your child has the worst World Book Day costume in the year, or you forgot to bring a special toy for the show and tell? SO WHAT! Everyone got out of the door and to where they are meant to be looking vaguely human, and that’s a major achievement in itself. Pat yourself on the back.

• Put your phone away. Yes I know those words are hard to hear – and I need to take a hefty leaf out of my own book here – but when you get home from work, put that device out of sight and be present for your children. Physically put it in the kitchen drawer. Emails can wait an hour or so until you’ve had some play time and bath and bedtime is done. If you’re home, be home in every sense.

• Involve children in your work life where possible. I took my toddler son to see my office at HELLO! magazine just before I came back to work after my second maternity leave because I’d been talking so much about ‘work’, I realised he had no concept of what that actually meant. He loved getting the train in with me, meeting colleagues in the office – who treated him like Royalty – and sitting at my desk. And we still talk about that day. It makes it easier for him to relate to what I’m doing when I leave the house in the morning and is something I’m going to endeavour to do every now and again, when possible. Don’t feel that your two worlds of work and home can never meet – bring them together, just as you juggle work emails at home, when the kids are asleep.

• Ignore the Mrs Perfect ‘alpha’ mum. You know that mum at the nursery or school gate who gives you an icy stare and always looks like a supermodel – polished, fashionable, in control and just, perfect, at 8.30am every morning? Don’t compare yourself to her. Other mums can be a great source of information and confidence – as well as the exact opposite – so surround yourself with like-minded and supportive mum friends.

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24 Comments

  1. I do always wonder about balancing my future children with my career and also whether the world will be better if I have daughters. This was an inspiring read

  2. I think mum’s can have it all if they want, it’s not easy and I’m sure they’ll be sacrifices here and there but the hard work and dedication pays off.

  3. These are some great tips, it can be so hard to find the right work/life balance.

  4. Great tips – putting the phone away is probably the best of the lot 🙂

  5. The ‘Don’t try and do everything’ is so important if you’re to try and find any balance between work and family… It’s taken me a fair few years to realise that and the minute you do, it’s like a weight has been lifted off your shoulders.
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  6. I don’t have children but I did have a full on career for 30 years and it is only now that I am retired that I can find time for myself and my hobbies.

  7. I’ve always struggled with my work life balance as I’ve always been to work orientated when it comes to things and then I realise my family life is failing… Luckily I have found the perfect balance over the last couple of years and I do believe you can have it all but you have to work hard at managing your time more! xx
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  8. The first point is so so true, nothing ever goes amazingly well, for me anyway, the first time x

  9. These are all excellent points. For me, I felt emotionally unready to leave my daughter and so left my job. I’ve been happy with that decision, but know its not for everyone.

  10. I think it’s so hard to create the perfect work/ life balance. I know mine certainly leaves a lot to be desired x
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  11. Not a Mum myself but there are some interesting points I can totally adapt for my life, and potentially moving forward.

  12. I am just about to have my first child and I LOVE my job as a full-time blogger. I do worry about finding that balance, but a balance is so important.

  13. I so want to read this book, the cover is so glam. She sure is an inspirational woman.

  14. Great advice I’m a stay at home mum but count blogging as my job too its hard to get the work/life balance sometimes.

  15. Great tips for working mums and how to bakance it all!! Mine are still to young for me to go back to work but when I do I’ll be refering to these!

  16. It does seem like everyone has to find a good balance. Rosie’s novel sounds like an awesome read!

  17. Great tips, I need to learn to delegate more I think. I do too much myself.

  18. My mummy has a good life/work balance at the moment…for how long who knows?!! Great tips especially for parents xx

  19. Great tips! I need to it my phone down more and keep it out of reach x

  20. I’m a working single mum and it’s hard but I wouldn’t give up my job or daughter for the world

  21. Some very helpful tips here! Totally agree with not trying to do everything at once

  22. Direct and essential points. It’s not easy but surely possible. We all need some sort of errors at first to finally make it at the end.

  23. Loved this interview, Rosie is an inspiration and her novel looks superb. Must order and her follow up. I agree about the phone and funnily enough mention that and being strict about time out in a post that went live tonight. So wonderful she took her son into work too x

  24. I am trying to strike the right work/life balance at the moment. Handy tips here thank you xx

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