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Apparently, children start to develop impulse control at around 18 months, but it takes many years before this most elusive of personal skills is mastered (I know many adults who are still struggling).
I still remember being four years old and climbing up to the top shelf of the food pantry to pinch the Vitamin-C tablets (they tasted like orange sweets). I was only planning to snaffle one or two, but just couldn’t help myself and polished them all off. I tried to blame my sister, but since she was only two at the time I’m pretty sure Mum didn’t buy it.
And secrets? Forget about it. The knowledge would burn away like a hot coal in my belly and I couldn’t wait to blurt it out. I’d tell one friend, and she’d tell another, who’d tell another. Before long we’d all be giving each other those sly smiles and knowing looks because, as fun as it was to have a secret it was much more fun to share one.
Studies have proven that sharing information can bond people together, increasing their sense of community and security. And while sharing bad news has been proven to alleviate stress (a problem shared is a problem halved) sharing good news can actually increase happiness – just like the nursery children in this video, the Cake Test, created by Hungarian Telekom.
Entrusted with a secret, they’re fit to burst, until they give into temptation and share the surprise – with adorably joyful results. So, what are you – a secret keeper, or a secret sharer?
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