Bad Mummy Moments

Looking after my little girl is the best job in the world, and I love it. But, if I’m completely honest, there are days when my performance review report would be less than glowing. I run my freelance features business from home as well, so some days are pretty frantic, with deadlines, international phone interviews, and late-night write ups. Something simply has to give. Although I know it’s the inescapable compromise of modern motherhood, I can’t help feeling that twinge of guilt when my mothering standards slip. So here is my full and frank confession, my top 5 Bad Mummy Moments (in no particular order):

1: Realising I don’t have the time (or energy) to prepare the organic Annabel Karmel-inspired meal I should be making, and opening a tin of Alphabetti spaghetti instead. I grate cheese on the top though – doesn’t that make it home-made?

2: Rushing to morning music class only to realise I haven’t brushed Lucia’s hair properly (at all) and the back is full of little dreadlocks. Of course all the other kids look freakishly immaculate.

3: Occasionally, when I need 20 minutes to make a work call, I turn to the family babysitter – Upsy Daisy. One episode of In The Night Garden later (thank you, Sky+), my work is done, and everyone’s happy!

4: When it’s too cold to venture outside I’ve been known to grant the odd Pyjama Day, letting Lucia stay in her fleecy jim jams until bath time. What’s the point of dirtying another set of clothes if we’re just chilling out at home?

5: I know I shouldn’t, but sometimes I just can’t help myself, and I’ll get Lucia out of her cot for a sleepy night-time cuddle. She always goes straight back to sleep, so technically it’s not disrupting her… right?

Do you have any Bad Mummy Moments you’ll admit to???

3 Comments

  1. Suzanne - February 9, 2010

    I do try and make lots of fresh meals, but my kids love spaghetti hoops (with grated cheese)as well! I think It’s a real struggle at times being self-employed and being a parent, and you sound to me like you are doing just fine – I can identify with all of the above. I think we all look around and think people are doing a better job (but I bet they are just like us really).

  2. Michelle - February 10, 2010

    Numbers 1 – 4 can all join my claims to fame! yep been there! lol Sometimes us busy mums have to be flexible and the trick is to not beat ourselves up. Mich x

  3. Mummy's Little Monkey - February 12, 2010

    Suzanne: it’s such a cliche, but life would be so much easier, and under control, if i just had another four or five hours extra in the day!! Then I could be that Nigella Lawson/Supermum/high flying businesswoman I dream of actually being!

    Michelle: it’s reassuring to know that I’m not alone… :)

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